Funerals are deeply emotional and sensitive events, where words carry significant weight. While it’s natural to want to offer comfort and support to grieving family and friends, certain remarks can unintentionally cause discomfort or even offense. To help navigate this delicate situation with care and empathy, here are four things you should never say at a funeral — no matter what — along with suggestions for more thoughtful alternatives.

1. “I Know Exactly How You Feel”
Why It’s Harmful:
Even if you’ve experienced a similar loss, everyone processes grief differently. Saying “I know exactly how you feel” can minimize the unique emotions the bereaved person is experiencing and shift the focus to your own story.

What to Say Instead:
“I can’t imagine how difficult this must be for you, but I’m here to support you.”
“I’m so sorry for your loss. Please let me know how I can help.”
These alternatives acknowledge the individuality of their pain while offering genuine support.

2. “They’re in a Better Place Now”